162. Nothing is wrong with you! An interview with Dr. Valerie Rein

Hey gorgeous!

On today’s show, I’d like to share step number one in Getting To Know Yourself, my brand new audio training. That is identifying yourself and how you manage your body’s energy.

Here we go (the link to the full training can be found over at www.doritpalvanov.com/gettoknowyourself)

Enjoy!

Transcript:

You know that the experience of a woman is different from a man’s (being different doesn’t imply inferiority). 

But the fact that women are expected to operate in life and business as a man is absurd! 

Men and women have been created differently for a reason and I want you to live your life embracing this truth and accepting it. 

We’re going to begin by introducing you to two types of women I work with and by the end of it, you’ll self identify which woman you resonate with most.

Why does this matter?

Simplicity.

Isn’t that what we all crave? 

I’ve been in this industry long enough to see how confusing ‘health’ can be.

Especially as women.

Your conditions are merely symptoms of a deeper-rooted issue.

Many of the answers to the conditions you have lay in the framework I’m going to teach you today.

Conditions like:

Hormonal imbalances – heavy, painful, irregular periods.

Emotional and mental instabilities – Brain fog, Moodiness, Overwhelm, Snappy behaviour.

Why do you tend to burn out?

Why do you feel sucked-dry of energy?

Why doesn’t life feel fun anymore?

Why do you feel frustrated and uninspired?

The answers lay in the differences between the two types of women I’ve observed in my practice.

Actually, not so much the type as much as how she operates in the world.

How she uses her body energy to live her life.

Meet Kimberly.

She’s an ambitious go-getter.

She’s confident and experienced in the marketplace and knows how and where to push to see results in her job or business.

A kick-ass businesswoman.

She’s busy and has a demanding job.

She’s the breadwinner in her household.

Often the only woman in a male-dominant workplace – striving, competing – to be seen and heard against all odds.

She’s determined. Hard-working. Relentlessly paving her way to the top.

She’s a professional.

Educated.

Often has multiple degrees under her belt (maybe even a Ph.D.).

She’s incredibly smart, talented, skilled and…. tired.

Actually she’s exhausted.

She secretly wonders what’s the point of it all.

Kimberly feels good at work but unsuccessful at home.

She misses the kids.

She craves to spend more time with them.

Dreams of vacations and time off just to catch up with them.

She has a nanny and a housekeeper, but she misses home.

She wishes to have more time.

When she leaves the house she exits her body.

She isn’t satisfied with her marriage. Her sex life is so-so. It’s good but not great.

Her husband isn’t the man she hoped he’d be.

She often considers separation but knows this will shatter the kids.

Her man isn’t a great husband but is a great dad.

Women like Kimberly tend to come into my practice feeling guilty because seemingly, she has everything.

The career, a family, the house, cars, vacations, a convenient lifestyle…

Still, something isn’t enough.

Women like Kimberly often use birth control pills for most of their lives and when they get off of it, experience their emotions for the first time and don’t know what to do with them.

Kimberly often wonders why her body is so messy? She wants to get her periods under control

She feels afraid, disgusted and even mad at femininity.

She questions herself. Often grumpy.

She has vicious dreams, and spirals down on an emotional roller coaster.

Food gives her a wicked handover.

She feels unstable, unbalanced, wobbly.

She wonders – what is wrong with me?

She never really got to know herself. 

Meet Melissa.

Melissa is a SAHM (or works but not her life’s work).

She’s dedicated her life to her family.

She spends loads of energy trying to please everybody and rarely takes time for herself.

She depends on her husband financially and dreams of financial independence.

Melissa has a vision of starting a blog, or a business she can run from home working part-time hours in between her household responsibilities.

She knows it’s possible, she’d seen other women doing it.

She knows she can do it too.

But for some reason, she never gets to it.

She promised herself to get up early in the morning but never does.

She knows she needs to be consistent, but never has the energy to stick with it.

Her days are hectic with her waking up with the kids and feeling moody.

Sometimes she gets stubborn and doesn’t want to be around anyone (husband and kids included).

She just wants time for herself. Alone. 

Every now and then she has breakdowns and lashes out.

Mental and emotional breakdowns cause her trouble in her marriage and with the kids.

She’s infested with fear, confusion and regret.

She’s stressed about money.

She often wonders when will she be making her own money?

She wants her husband to be proud of her, but instead, he judges her and can’t understand why she’s not coping.

When he gets upset, she gets upset and tends to lose focus.

He spends hours upon hours trying to ‘fix’ and analyze her by acting like her ‘therapist’.

She feels trapped and ‘domesticated’.

She feels like she’s lost herself in the life of motherhood and being a wife.

She doesn’t believe she has the power to break the generational pattern she has been born into.

She feels alone and craves community.

Melissa wants to belong to something bigger than herself and her family.

In terms of health conditions, women like Melissa, complain about conditions like irregular and heavy periods (thyroid and adrenal issues), adult acne, weight gain, bulky arms and back, brain fog, cognitive and mental issues, short-term-memory-loss and emotional eating.

She wonders – what is wrong with me?

So today you’re going to learn three steps on how to understand yourself as a woman so you can become the confident, energized and passionate woman you were destined to be on your own terms. 

This is the foundation to creating a life that works for you instead of against you. This training will help you become a victor instead of a victim of life’s circumstances. You have the power to have anything you want. 

The question isn’t ‘Why’, but ‘Why not’? Or ‘Why me?’ but ‘Why not me?’

This training will be like a powerful coaching session with me, on-demand! 

You know that the experience of a woman is different from a man’s (being different doesn’t imply inferiority). 

But the fact that women are expected to operate in life and business as a man is absurd! 

Men and women have been created differently for a reason and I want you to live your life embracing this truth and accepting it. 

We’re going to begin by introducing you to two types of women I work with and by the end of it, you’ll self identify which woman you resonate with most.

Why does this matter?

Simplicity.

Isn’t that what we all crave? 

I’ve been in this industry long enough to see how confusing ‘health’ can be.

Especially as women.

Your conditions are merely symptoms of a deeper-rooted issue.

Many of the answers to the conditions you have lay in the framework I’m going to teach you today.

Conditions like:

Hormonal imbalances – heavy, painful, irregular periods.

Emotional and mental instabilities – Brain fog, Moodiness, Overwhelm, Snappy behaviour.

Why do you tend to burn out?

Why do you feel sucked-dry of energy?

Why doesn’t life feel fun anymore?

Why do you feel frustrated and uninspired?

The answers lay in the differences between the two types of women I’ve observed in my practice.

Actually, not so much the type as much as how she operates in the world.

How she uses her body energy to live her life.

Meet Kimberly.

She’s an ambitious go-getter.

She’s confident and experienced in the marketplace and knows how and where to push to see results in her job or business.

A kick-ass businesswoman.

She’s busy and has a demanding job.

She’s the breadwinner in her household.

Often the only woman in a male-dominant workplace – striving, competing – to be seen and heard against all odds.

She’s determined. Hard-working. Relentlessly paving her way to the top.

She’s a professional.

Educated.

Often has multiple degrees under her belt (maybe even a Ph.D.).

She’s incredibly smart, talented, skilled and…. tired.

Actually she’s exhausted.

She secretly wonders what’s the point of it all.

Kimberly feels good at work but unsuccessful at home.

She misses the kids.

She craves to spend more time with them.

Dreams of vacations and time off just to catch up with them.

She has a nanny and a housekeeper, but she misses home.

She wishes to have more time.

When she leaves the house she exits her body.

She isn’t satisfied with her marriage. Her sex life is so-so. It’s good but not great.

Her husband isn’t the man she hoped he’d be.

She often considers separation but knows this will shatter the kids.

Her man isn’t a great husband but is a great dad.

Women like Kimberly tend to come into my practice feeling guilty because seemingly, she has everything.

The career, a family, the house, cars, vacations, a convenient lifestyle…

Still, something isn’t enough.

Women like Kimberly often use birth control pills for most of their lives and when they get off of it, experience their emotions for the first time and don’t know what to do with them.

Kimberly often wonders why her body is so messy? She wants to get her periods under control

She feels afraid, disgusted and even mad at femininity.

She questions herself. Often grumpy.

She has vicious dreams, and spirals down on an emotional roller coaster.

Food gives her a wicked handover.

She feels unstable, unbalanced, wobbly.

She wonders – what is wrong with me?

She never really got to know herself. 

Meet Melissa.

Melissa is a SAHM (or works but not her life’s work).

She’s dedicated her life to her family.

She spends loads of energy trying to please everybody and rarely takes time for herself.

She depends on her husband financially and dreams of financial independence.

Melissa has a vision of starting a blog, or a business she can run from home working part-time hours in between her household responsibilities.

She knows it’s possible, she’d seen other women doing it.

She knows she can do it too.

But for some reason, she never gets to it.

She promised herself to get up early in the morning but never does.

She knows she needs to be consistent, but never has the energy to stick with it.

Her days are hectic with her waking up with the kids and feeling moody.

Sometimes she gets stubborn and doesn’t want to be around anyone (husband and kids included).

She just wants time for herself. Alone. 

Every now and then she has breakdowns and lashes out.

Mental and emotional breakdowns cause her trouble in her marriage and with the kids.

She’s infested with fear, confusion and regret.

She’s stressed about money.

She often wonders when will she be making her own money?

She wants her husband to be proud of her, but instead, he judges her and can’t understand why she’s not coping.

When he gets upset, she gets upset and tends to lose focus.

He spends hours upon hours trying to ‘fix’ and analyze her by acting like her ‘therapist’.

She feels trapped and ‘domesticated’.

She feels like she’s lost herself in the life of motherhood and being a wife.

She doesn’t believe she has the power to break the generational pattern she has been born into.

She feels alone and craves community.

Melissa wants to belong to something bigger than herself and her family.

In terms of health conditions, women like Melissa, complain about conditions like irregular and heavy periods (thyroid and adrenal issues), adult acne, weight gain, bulky arms and back, brain fog, cognitive and mental issues, short-term-memory-loss and emotional eating.

She wonders – what is wrong with me?

She, too, never really got to know herself. 

Want the rest of the audio training?

Head on over to www.doritpalvanov.com/gettoknowyourself where you can download the full audio training in full.

Speaking of ‘what’s wrong with me?’ today I’m chatting with Dr. Valerie Rein, author of Patriarchy Stress Disorder – The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment. You’ll see that

About Dr. Valerie Rein

Dr. Valerie Rein has discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the generational trauma of oppression. She holds an EdM in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University and a PhD in Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Her bestselling book, “Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment” and her cutting-edge programs have helped thousands of women shift from survival to thriving and master the game of “How good can it get?” in their work and personal lives. Dr. Valerie is a sought-after speaker and trainer at conferences and companies committed to setting new standards of excellence in their industry in diversity, equity, and inclusion, employee satisfaction, their physical and mental health, and creativity and innovation.

Highlights from today’s episode:

1. Dr. Valerie’s story of burnout and healing from it

2. Valerie’s definition and examples of patriarchy (is it man-hating?) and trauma.

3. The five steps to healing Patriarchy Stress Disorder using my burnout story as a case study.

4. Dr. Valerie answers my rapid-fire questions, her definition of feminine power, what makes her feel confident, energized and sexy.

After today’s interview, hopefully, you will understand that nothing stands in your way other than yourself and the trauma and oppression you’ve been carrying since you were born a female.

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