The Child You Abuse All The Time

Hey gorgeous,

Would you ever dare to talk to your child the way you talk to yourself in your head?

So why is it that you do that to your inner child?

This past week I’ve been extra hard on myself, had multiple anxiety attacks, doubted my decisions, my career choice, motherhood, my marriage…

My mind is very stubborn and works extremely fast and that sometimes leaves me feeling defeatedrushed and like I’m losing all the time.

Today I’m reminding myself of the little girl that lives inside me and that all she wants and needs is to be loved.

I choose to love myself because I am worthy of it.

You are worthy of this too.

Here’s a powerful exercise you can try:

1. Write out all the mean things that race through your head.

2. Find a picture of yourself as a child.

3. Say those mean things you wrote to her.

Can you do it?

You’ll see that you won’t be able to do it! It’s impossible!

Instead, be gentle with yourself and talk to her like you would with your child who’s struggling or feeling stuck.

This is a picture of me taken in 1985, I’m three years old.

I was feisty, charming, brave, courageous, loud, fun, happy, confident, energetic, alive.

This picture reminds me of who I really am.

I’m sure, you too, have similar memories.

So what should you say to yourself instead?

Here’s an example:

‘Oh my sweet little [your name], I know it’s hard. Of course, you’re struggling. It’s been so long since you’ve done something just for yourself, something that brings you joy. What do you need my love?”

Then stop talking and listen.

She knows.

Give her what she needs.


This process is called self-parenting or self-mothering and it is one of the modules inside of my membership community.

Learning this skill is essential to your mental, emotional, physical and even spiritual health!

Without this skill, you’ll struggle to enjoy your life, be present, love and be loved.

It’s that important!

This is more than self-care.
This is self-respect.

Now it’s your turn.

Tell me, do you ever get into a mean loop inside your head? What mean things do you say to yourself? How do you handle it? Post your response in the comments below.

I can’t wait to hear your story.



p.s. I’ve recorded a podcast about self-parenting, you can listen to it by clicking here.

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